an update, finally

sometimes the fact that you are busy deserves its own post, which is what happened yesterday when i obviously picked something out of the thought catalogue and posted it in the post below. and then some idiot just have to conveniently ignore the first line of the post where i linked the original post. i mean it is like, what the fuck. it is obviously not something that i write and in the manner that we all do with posts we like, we link those and call it a day. some people are beyond stupid it has rendered me speechless. and of course to the same people the mere fact that i wrote this paragraph means i regard myself as better than them. go figure.

now, onto the real post. it is the long weekend and boy i am glad that it is here. sometimes life has its own way to make sure that things are exactly as they need to be and it just so happens that i need to rest and i want sometime to spend with my friends and this weekend is the perfect opportunity for such things. in an ideal world, i was organised enough to plan a getaway, or at least a day trip to somewhere with someone. but alas, that did not happen, so this love affair with Sydney has to somewhat continue, and that's okay, you know because Sydney is pretty loveable in its own way.

yesterday i had a conversation re this blog with a friend who told me that she does not do blogs, period. and i asked why and she just said that she's not interested. and this is something new to me, you see, because in case you can't tell, i have always been fascinated with blogs. even when i don't know all these people in real life, it is actually nice to have glimpses of their lives through their blogs. i would not go as far as saying that i know them, i only read the blog and the blog is probably, at best, 5% of their lives and their thoughts that they are willing to share to the world. granted that this 5% is the best 5% that they are willing to share and might have been picked, combed and edited to make things look perfect, but trust me, everyone's lives, to a certain degree, have commonalities in that we all feel boredom and tired and excitement and passion interchangeably throughout the day.

and she said, she wants conversations and that does not surprise me at all. but it did make me made a mental note to actually speak more to her because she is a great conversation partner. she is a great listener, a great talker and so far our interaction has been satisfying. you know, when you talked to someone and you feel satisfied afterwards, for whatever reason - usually because the conversation has been great? well, that's it.

this does make me wonder - how many people in this life actually feel the same way. i know there are people that i want to have conversations with and i usually manage to talk to these people by asking them if they can meet me. i mean, it's not meant to be that hard, no? you kind of come up to them and start talking, or arrange to meet up with them and then, well, talk?

i read somewhere that friendships are formed through unplanned interactions, which somewhat means that people who are in close physical proximity with each other have a higher chance of being friends because they are able to, say, bumped into each other and have a quick conversation, or grab coffee and/or food together, etc. the fact that they are able to spend time in these not-necessarily-planned activities build the bond, and subsequently, they become friends. there is a lot to be said about physical proximity, which is also why friends who live in the same city tend to be closer than those who live on different parts of the world. i used to think that this is all bullshit because friendships are a function of the effort you put in, until i realise that this is actually true because it happened to me. it is not because i don't put enough effort, it is just that certain things are easier, and physical proximity means, well, maintaining friendship is easier.

then again, it may very well be because i am a very physical person, in the sense that i feel most alive when i hug someone. this is somewhat inconvenient because not everyone likes to be hugged, but if you do like hugs as much as i do, can we hug? :D

have a great long weekend and don't sweat the small stuff. be happy.

x